I’ve been thinking lately that maybe its time I open up and try something new. Obviously, whatever I’ve been doing in the past isn’t working for me. It is something that has been on my mind for awhile but when I saw the following tweet by @IamMercedez it confirmed what I was already thinking.
What if my problem is that who I’m attracted to isn’t who I’m supposed to be with? When I spoke with the dating expert and life coach last month they both asked me what my “type” was. For some reason (probably wanting to be “politically correct”?), I felt uncomfortable with being totally honest. The fact is that my “type” tends to be black guys. When walking down the street if I spot a hot guy, 9 times out of 10, he will be black or mixed race.
I went to a predominately white school and always had crushes on white boys as a kid. I won’t even start on how hugely obsessed I was New Kids On The Block as a child (who am I kidding, I still love them even as a 33yr old!) but those things aside, I can honestly say that I’ve not had a romantic relationship with a guy of the ‘caucasian persuasion’ as an adult. It’s just one of those things I guess.
I can’t help but wonder if like a Kenya McQueen, a character in a movie called ‘Something New’ that I watched recently, could be missing out?
In ‘Something New’ the character Kenya is urged on by her friends to try something new and to let go of her dream of the “ideal black man,” she goes a blind date with an architectural landscaper named Brian, only to cut the date short once she sees Brian is white. The two meet again at a party, and Kenya hires Brian to landscape her new home. I don’t want to ruin the film for you, so I’ll let you guess the rest. However, it was interesting to see how Kenya dealt with her own personal hang ups as well as those of her friends and family.
As far as I’m concerned, it’s no different to a guys having a preference for boobs rather than bums, or blondes rather than brunettes. I just happen to have a preference for black and brown skin. It’s what ‘does it’ for me. I can’t apologise for that!
However, I am absolutely aware that I’m not doing myself any favours by limiting myself and don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of white guys that I find attractive. Problem is… they are all famous hahaha! I find US actors Eddie Cibrian, Sean Faris, Hugh Jackman, Mark Wahlberg and Zac Efron (Yes. I’m aware he’s about a decade younger than me, but did you see 17 Again? Nuff said.) beyond hot! Oh, and I have to give an honourable mention to the UK’s own David Beckham (hubba hubba).
But, seriously. Have you seen Eddie Cibrian??
Isn’t he gorgeous? Here is another one, just because its my blog, and just because I feel like it….
Now, the question is, how do I meet these guys? White guys don’t approach me and the places I tend to socialise at tend to have a predominately black crowd. I accept that my Mr Right could be black, white, yellow, green or purple but how will I know unless I’m open to it, right?
I have so much more to say on this subject but I’m interested to hear your thoughts. Have you dated outside of your own race? Do you have ‘a type’? Any tips, advice, suggestions? What do you think of Eddie Cibrian? Come on, I want to hear from you!